It seems odd to me that the entire adoption community looks to the adoptive parents to field all these really difficult problems. Yes, we have opened our homes. Somewhere along the way, that turned from being a good thing to being a selfish thing. Not quite sure how that works! We all have our freckles and warts, for sure, but it is not a bad thing to volunteer to parent a child we did not produce with our bodies. How can adoptive parents be responsible for ensuring adoption agencies are doing their jobs, foreign governments are fulfilling their responsibilities, birth mother rights are protected, birth family relations are preserved perfectly with no mistakes, etc, etc, etc, and still find time to raise up the children? Simply raising a child is an all consuming task. Something has got to give!

I also wonder why the US hasn’t reformed the foster care system because that issue besides international adoption is driving me insane.